Honest Reflections

^“But Ruth replied, “Don’t ask me to leave you and turn back. Wherever you go, I will go; wherever you live, I will live. Your people will be my people, and your God will be my God. Wherever you die, I will die, and there I will be buried. May the Lord punish me severely if I allow anything but death to separate us!” Ruth 1:16-18
These are amazing verses. The majority of people think they’re a wonderful wedding verse. In fact, in my single days I cross-stitched this verse trusting God for a mate. It had a beautiful wedding dress draped over a hope chest and these words were written beneath it. Lovely, right? Except these verses aren’t actually about marriage or following the love of your life. They’re about two women who had an incredible relationship and how they followed God together.
Let me introduce you to Naomi. Naomi had a hard life. Her husband moved her from her hometown with their two sons. While there, first her husband died, then both of her sons about 10 years later. That’s a tremendous amount of loss for any one person. Her sons, however had married and that is where we meet Ruth and Orpah. The Bible isn’t clear how long they were married. We just know this is how these women came into relationship with each other. They were in-laws. Naomi was also from a foreign country, so they were also foreigners to her.
Picture this, you’re in a foreign country, you’ve lost your husband and sons. You have no money, you’re destitute. You’re left with two women who are now your daughters-in-law. (Let’s face it, mother-in-laws and daughters-in-law don’t always have a reputation for the best relationships.) What would you do?
Naomi trusted God. In fact, Naomi was so devoted to God, that when she wants to move back home, they want to go with her. Why would they want to go with her? That means that they are willing to leave all that is home to them to follow her into a strange land where they will be the foreigners. They are willing to leave their gods for her God. Their very lives could be in danger and they could be subjected to unthinkable things. Yet they want to go. Why?
There is only one answer. It’s God. It is God in Naomi. It is how Naomi has loved and treated them. It has drawn them not only into a close relationship with her, but with God as well. That is incredible! Eventually Orpah decides to stay, but Ruth is adamant, she’s going. That one decision, her choice to follow Naomi and Naomi’s God gave her a place in history no one could of ever expected. She is in the lineage of Jesus. She married Boaz and gave birth to Obed, who is the father of Jesse and grandfather of King David.
That all happened because Naomi loved God and loved those around her. Naomi suffered such tragedy. In fact, she changes her name to Mara “because the Lord has made life very bitter for me.” (Ruth 1:20). Yet in her bitterness she still loved, in her sorrow she still trusted, and in her pain she still drew others to her and to God.
Corrie Ten Boom sums it up well:

“Life is but a Weaving” (the Tapestry Poem)

“My life is but a weaving
Between my God and me.
I cannot choose the colors
He weaveth steadily.

Oft’ times He weaveth sorrow;
And I in foolish pride
Forget He sees the upper
And I the underside.

Not ’til the loom is silent
And the shuttles cease to fly
Will God unroll the canvas
And reveal the reason why.

The dark threads are as needful
In the weaver’s skillful hand
As the threads of gold and silver
In the pattern He has planned

He knows, He loves, He cares;
Nothing this truth can dim.
He gives the very best to those
Who leave the choice to Him.”

― Corrie ten Boom

“But don’t just listen to God’s word. You must do what it says. Otherwise, you are only fooling yourselves. For if you listen to the word and don’t obey, it is like glancing at your face in a mirror. You see yourself, walk away, and forget what you look like. But if you look carefully into the perfect law that sets you free, and if you do what it says and don’t forget what you heard, then God will bless you for doing it.” James 1:22-25

At 47 years old I finally understand this scripture, thanks to Andy Stanley! It’s one of those ones I’ve just never quite got…how in the world could you look in the mirror and forget what you look like? It just never made sense to me.

Then yesterday, as I listened to the most recent podcast from Andy, he finally explained it to me. It was one of those moments where I felt peace about something I didn’t even know was giving me turmoil.

Here’s the deal…it’s not looking in the mirror after you’ve showered and combed your hair, put on make-up etc. It’s looking in the mirror first thing in the morning, when you’re hair is a mess, there’s drool (maybe) on your chin and eye crusties hanging out…and not doing anything about what you see. Not taking a shower, not putting on deodorant, not brushing your teeth. It’s just walking out the door as is and going about your business. That is the comparison here. I never understood that until yesterday.

Why would you do that? The truth is, you wouldn’t. In fact, you don’t want to have anyone see you that way. After you look in the mirror first thing in the morning, your first thought usually is, “I need a shower.” We all have our different morning routines, but you get the gist. You’ll spend anywhere from a half hour to hours getting ready before you’ll walk out the door, you’ll even be late to work, school or meetings before you’d let people see you not completely “put together” so to speak. We spend way more time on the physical appearance than we do on the inner appearance.

That is exactly what this scripture is talking about. When we open God’s word and apply it to our lives, it’s like looking at our reflection first thing in the morning. We will see some things about ourselves, about something we’ve done, thoughts we’ve had that aren’t very attractive. The problem is, we won’t do anything about it. We walk away and forget what we just saw.

We forget that God tells us to forgive that person who hurt us, instead we’d rather hold a grudge. We forget we’re supposed to tell the truth, instead we let them believe the lie. We forget we’re supposed to love everyone, instead we pick and choose who deserves our affection.

The sad reality about the world we live in is this. Most people don’t even open their Bible, it makes it a lot easier to avoid the mirror if we don’t look at it at all. It isn’t always pretty what God reveals to us when we choose to spend time with Him, read His word and look into His mirror. But the effects of applying God’s word to our lives, to our relationships and our circumstances will last longer, have more impact and change more lives than any amount of make-up we put on!

Look in the mirror today, God’s mirror. Don’t be afraid, He loves you no matter what and let it begin to transform you into who He made you to be!

Gleanings from Ruth

Looking in the Mirror