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“But be sure to fear the LORD and serve him faithfully with all your heart; consider what great things he has done for you.”  1 Samuel 12:24 NIV

Ron and I have a favorite restaurant we go to often.  I know the majority of the waiters and waitress there.  I try hard to remember all of their names and keep up with their lives.  They are a wonderful group of people who are always there for us on our good days and our bad days. This restaurant is the place we go when we are dealing with life events, good or bad.  When I lost my job, we went there. When I finished my first semester, we went there. These people are the ones who share in those moments with us. And we love them. I was a server when I worked my way through college.  Not everyone can be a waiter or waitress, my husband for one. He trained for one day and knew he did not have what it takes to do the job. And he doesn’t, because he doesn’t multitask well. Servers have to be able to multitask.

Jesus was the consummate servant, He did it all.  He healed the bleeding woman on the way to save Jarius’ daughter (Luke 8:43-48 CSB).  He saved the woman from being stoned in the middle of a sermon (John 8:2-11 NIV).  He healed the demon possessed man in the midst of his travels (Mark 5:1-20).  Servants have to be interruptible, they have to anticipate the needs of those they are serving, and then meet those needs.  No one did this better than Jesus. He knew what mattered most, people.

I’m in a very busy season at this point in time.  My work load for school is double what it normally is, so I’ve been studying a lot.  Sometimes I have to put the “Do Not Disturb” on my phone because the pings from emails, texts, messenger, etc. drives me crazy.  But then I remember Jesus’ example of being interruptible, of multitasking, of serving. No study is more important than my loved ones.  When Ron unexpectedly comes home for a few minutes during the day, I stop what I am doing to spend those few minutes with him. Those kind of moments are the unexpected blessings of our days we don’t want to miss.  Servants hearts think about the other person, they don’t miss those moments. I’m trying to develop my servants heart, my friends that do it so naturally help me do it better.  

As I watch my waiter and waitress friends buzz around the restaurant, meeting needs effortlessly, it inspires me to do better.  I think of them when I have the opportunity to go the extra mile for my husband, like putting away his laundry instead of leaving it for him to do.  Or when I can drop an unexpected gift off to a friend who’s having a bad day. Servants help me get outside of myself and think of others. They help me remember, it’s not about my wants, but theirs.  

Today I’m thankful for servants.  What are you thankful for?

“The mouth of the righteous utters wisdom; his tongue speaks what is just.”  Psalm 37:30 CSB

I have a Bible Study Fellowship (BSF) buddy, her name is Caroline.  Caroline and I have been buddies for awhile. We volunteered together for years, after our paths parted ways from volunteering, God brought us back together through BSF.  I didn’t know she was a member when I joined. Now, each week, we sit together, silently taking notes from the speaker. We have our designated pew where we are to meet each week.  Sitting beside her is a highlight of my week. We have about five minutes at the end of the lecture to give highlights of our lives, then we go our separate ways again until next time.  Caroline is a wise woman who I have learned much from just by sitting beside her.

She is a tiny woman with the strength of David.  Her strength is a quiet strength. I have watched her navigate life for the past 8 years.  Her strength comes from the Lord. As I sit beside her and see how diligently she takes notes, how she listens on the edge of her seat for what God is telling her through the message, it is truly inspiring. I love watching someone chase after God as diligently as she does, she spurs me on with her actions.  The stability Caroline helps me find in my faith comes from her steadfastness in the face of life issues. I’ve realized from her, it’s not the words you say, it’s the fact that you show up. I’ve watched Caroline go to the hospital with struggling families, sit watch by the bedside, bring the meals, pray over them.  I’ve watched her serve endlessly for her church, meeting any need she can. She keeps showing up, she looks for what God is doing, then she joins Him in His work. I want to be like her when I grow up.

Caroline illustrates how important it is not to just know God’s word, but apply it.  She searches the Scripture for what He has for her, then she puts it into practice in her life.  She is a buddy who illustrates this to me, time and time again. But it is a lifelong journey, we never arrive, Caroline knows this.  She knows each day is a new day with new challenges. She knows God’s mercies are fresh each morning. She knows who her best buddy is, she keeps in close contact with Him.  She shows others how to do the same, just like she has shown me.

Today I’m thankful for buddies.  What are you thankful for?

“Dear friends, do not believe every spirit, but test the spirits to see if they are from God, because many false prophets have gone out into the world.” 1 John 4:1 CSB

I am thankful for the people in my life who have forced me to set boundaries.  These are the people in our lives who push our buttons, the ones who have a knack for ruining our day.  But they can only ruin our day if we let them. These are the people we have to establish strong boundaries with in our relationships because otherwise they will steam roll our lives.  The pushy neighbor who doesn’t understand just because you’re at home means they can come over, has to be told you love them, but you need some space. The gum cracking office mate who doesn’t understand how annoying it is, you have to negotiate quietness with each day.  The family member who cares only about themselves has to be reminded, your life matters too. All of these people give us the opportunity to set healthy boundaries in our life.

An interesting article, 5 Rules for Setting Boundaries in our lives, gives us Biblical insight into how to do it.  First, we reap what we sow (Gal. 6:7-8 NIV).  Often we don’t set boundaries because we think we’re helping the person by protecting them from the consequences of their actions.  However, the only way they will grow is if we let them fall. Secondly, actions are what cause people to overstep boundaries. We judge actions, not people, their actions will tell whether they understand our boundaries (John 3:21 NIV).  Next, if we’re following the Scriptures we don’t have to feel sorry for setting boundaries (2 Cor. 7:9 NIV).  When implement God’s principles into our lives, some people won’t understand those changes, especially if they’re not following God.  We don’t have to feel sorry for them not understanding, instead we can pray that one day they will understand. We can pray one day they will make the same changes in their life for the same reasons we made the changes in ours.  Fourth, healthy boundaries support healthy marriages (Eph. 4:2-3).  We have to protect our marriages by spending time with our spouse, working on our relationship, putting it above all others except God.  We have to say no to girls night out so we can say yes to date night in. And lastly, if we haven’t set clear boundaries with people in our lives, we can’t enforce them (Deut. 29:29 NIV).  If you don’t tell people what your boundaries are, you can’t expect them to respect them.  You have to communicate clearly what the line is that can’t be crossed, it’s the only way they will know not to cross it.

If we didn’t have challenging people in our lives, we wouldn’t learn how to set boundaries.  When we learn how to set boundaries, we grow as individuals. We learn to communicate better. We begin to become more self aware as we understand what our needs are and how to set up appropriate boundaries.  We learn to say no to people we need to say no too. Boundaries help us live healthier, fuller lives, as God intended (John 10:10 NIV).

Today I’m thankful for boundaries.  What are you thankful for?

“But if anyone does not provide for his own family, especially for his own household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.” 1 Timothy 5:8 CSB

At the beginning of this section of Scripture in my Bible, it says: “The Support of Widows,” God is telling us how to take care of family.  I was blessed with four brothers, men who know how to do this well. All of them have helped take care of me over my lifetime, I would not have the life I have if it wasn’t for them.  My mother was a widow, they took care of her well, so well she never remarried. My brother Butch gave me vision. He went to college first, when no one else in our family had, he gave me vision for my life.  My brother Dutch gave me fatherly love. When my Dad died and Mom was at wit’s end with my poor behavior, Dutch took me into his home and gave me another chance at life. My brother Matt gave me strength. Our relationship has sharpened me more than any other, because we are so alike.  We’ve wrestled with each other to get to maturity, and through it became friends. My brother Ron gave me faith. His journey with God started before mine, I followed him back to Jesus when my life was in a pit. I am thankful for these men who have helped shape my life.

Siblings do shape our lives, they are among the elite who knows you better than anyone else.  They know your shortcomings and love to remind you of them. The challenge of loving siblings will grow our love muscles better than most.  In everyone’s life, hopefully, there comes a point where you realize you’re not a kid anymore. You can’t get away with doing stupid things and blame it on not knowing.  Siblings are the ones who help you realize it. They do this by reminding you of your past mistakes, helping you learn from those mistakes so you can do better next time.  Unfortunately, we may not take their input well, after all, they are our siblings. But maybe we should. 

I’m finally beginning to understand some of the things my brothers have been trying to tell me.  Especially Matt, he was the one whose input I didn’t want but he’s the one I should have been listening too.  Instead of constantly fighting with him, I should have spent time listening to what he was trying to tell me. Now I’m beginning to understand, now I’m realizing, he wasn’t trying to keep me from having fun, he was protecting me.  The same thing God does for us when He tells us not to do things like lie, steal and cheat. He doesn’t tell us these things because He doesn’t want us to have fun, He tells us these things so we won’t hurt ourselves. I’m thankful for brothers because God used them to grow me closer to Him.

Today I’m thankful for brothers.  What are you thankful for?

“A JOYFUL HEART IS GOOD MEDICINE…”  PROVERBS 17:22a CSB

My friend Kelly always makes me laugh.  A native of Ohio, she has a delivery when she makes a point that brings a smile to my face.  Her view of life is honest and real. I always learn something new from her, being 10 years younger than me, she’s more hip than I am.  She always has something new for me to learn. We need friends in our lives who make us laugh, deep, belly roll laughs. Laughter is good medicine.  Laughter is the only way we can exercise our liver. Based on an article from “Green Your Life,” our liver is the second largest organ in our body, performing over 500 functions.  The article gives 10 ways we can take care of our liver, laughter is one of them. According to the article, “A good hearty laugh translates into liver health by increasing circulation and improving the flow of bile.” God created our livers, and He knows what is best for them, laughter.

In “The Laughter of Jesus” by Robert Lavaude, he explores the topic of Jesus and laughter.  The article concludes humor is found in God’s nature, we don’t see it because the Bible doesn’t come complete with emoticons.  In other words, we’re not given clues what Jesus is saying is funny because there aren’t exclamation points and smiley faces to tell us so.  He uses an example of reading scripture out loud, not realizing his seven year old son was listening until he heard his son laugh. When he asked him what was funny, he said the Scripture.  The author had been reading Matthew 7:3-5 which talks about taking the plank out of your own eye, instead of the speck out of someone else’s.  To a 7 year old boy, that sounded funny, and he’s not wrong. Visualizing a plank in our eye’s does have humor attached to it, but we don’t think of it that way.  Maybe because we don’t have the capability of laughing at ourselves. We know, if we’re focused on the speck, and missing the plank, we’re the ones who need work, not whoever we’re judging.  

Kelly has the ability to laugh at herself, which is why she makes me laugh.  She also has taught me how to laugh at myself, which makes life much more enjoyable.  Laughter is vital to our health. We need it for our liver, we need it for our sanity, we need it for our soul.  A few weeks ago we were at dinner with friends, at the end of the evening we stood outside the restaurant enjoying a good laugh.  All four of us were bent over in laughter, that moment has made me smile often in the weeks since. Laughter stays with us, laughter can bring a smile to your face weeks later when you remember the moment.  Laughter is a sign of a joyful heart, which is good medicine for our soul.

Today I’m thankful for laughter.  What are you thankful for?

“Let us hold on to the confession of our hope without wavering, since he who promised is faithful.”  Hebrews 10:23 CSB

Everyone needs a friend who is as faithful as my friend Heather.  She is my phone friend, she is the only person in my life I consistently talk to on the phone throughout the week.  As a Mom of 3, 2 teens and a preteen, finding time to connect can be difficult. But Heather does it. I always know to take her calls, because that means she has a moment she can talk.  Heather calls me when she is traveling between jobs for work. Sometimes those calls will come at 7:30 in the morning, sometimes noon, other times 6:00 at night. If she’s not driving for work, she’s driving her kids from one activity to another.  And she is faithful. She has never forgotten me, never given up on me, always calls. Our friendship spans almost 2 decades, and her faithfulness has kept it going.

Heather is faithful because she keeps calling.  She keeps checking in on me to make sure I’m doing ok.  For the longest time I didn’t call Heather, I was afraid to bother her because she lives such a hectic life.  It has only been in the last few years Heather has convinced me I can call her whenever I want. She promises me I’m not bothering her, if she’s in a meeting, she won’t answer.  Heather has pursued our friendship diligently, she is faithful. Heather does what Jesus does, she keeps showing up, time after time. In the same way Jesus never gives up on people, neither does Heather.  When we first met she was working in a food bank, feeding the homeless. I can still see her standing at the table, handing out bread, just like Jesus. And just like Jesus, I can call her anytime.  

Jesus is even more faithful than Heather.  He is waiting on us to turn to Him, to give Him our burdens so He can help us carry our load (Matthew 11:28-30 NIV).  Just like when I share my heart with Heather, Jesus is waiting for us to share our hearts with Him.  He already knows what is going on in our lives, He’s just waiting for us to include Him in them. And He keeps our secrets, just like Heather keeps mine.  When we confess our sins to Him, He doesn’t put them on the front page of the newspaper, He simply forgives us. He created us to be who we are, to fulfill each of our own purposes.  He loves us, unconditionally, warts and all. Jesus is truly our most faithful friend.

I’m thankful for faithfulness today.  What are you thankful for?

“Though he falls, he will not be overwhelmed, because the Lord supports him with his hand.” Psalm 37:24 CSB

Today, I’m thankful for my friend Pat. Our friendship is a Divine Appointment from heaven that was fulfilled.  Pat lives in Williamsburg, VA, but we met in Mt. Pleasant, SC, what would appear to be randomly, but we know it wasn’t.  We had a mutual friend who had been trying to introduce us but it never happened, she moved to SC, so we thought that was the end of that.  But it was only the beginning. Unbeknownst to either Pat or I, we both visited our friend in SC over the same weekend, that is how we met. By the time we left that night we had decided to do a summer Bible study together and the rest is history.  God wanted us to meet,and God has held us up over the past 13 years.

Pat and I’s faith journey together has been challenging.  Her daughter’s illness over the past 8 years has tested us like nothing else. But God has carried us through it. There have been so many times in this journey when all hope seems to be gone, but then God raises beauty from ashes and resurrects life (Isaiah 61:3 NIV).  God gives new life where there is none.  When doctors in one hospital said they could do no more, new life would be found in another hospital, with other doctors.  New hope would be found. God has been intimately involved in our days, even if we couldn’t see it. Sheila Walsh, gifted speaker says it this way: “Some of God’s greatest gifts to us are wrapped in boxes that cause our hands to bleed when we open them.”  There is no doubt our hands have bled with some of the gifts that have been received from God, but it’s worth it.

None of us know the path God will call us to walk.  We often forget, we don’t need to know the whole story to read the first page.  We don’t need to know the entire journey to take the first step. We just have to depend on God to get us there.  We wouldn’t get out of bed if we knew the whole story, it would be too overwhelming. But if we take it day by day, we can get through anything.  Pat and I have learned, life is best lived day by day, trusting God to guide us through it, His hand holding us up.

I’m thankful for God’s hand.  What are you thankful for?

“For just as the body without the spirit is dead, so also faith without works is dead.”  James 2:26 CSB

When we have faith, we move forward in life.  When we believe God is with us, God is for us, not against us, it allows us to do His work.  God has always guided my career, when I look back over my life, I can see how He has been intricately involved in every step, even when I didn’t know it at the time.  Just like when I got an email from my business partner, Martha in the winter of 2015 that changed my life. I had left Nautica in January and was taking time off work to grieve the loss of my Mom and Cody.  Martha emailed me in February and asked me if I’d like to train to be a tennis coach for children 10 and Under. I said, “Sure, why not? I’m not doing anything else.” Long story short, that is how our partnership began. A year later we formed Hampton Roads Tennis Academy.  We just finished our fifth year of teaching. We teach all ages, children through adults. God used Martha to help heal my broken heart. I can not put into words how much she means to me, how much our friendship means to me, how much I love her.

I love having a partner because they have your back.  I always know Martha has my back, I never doubt that because Martha is a woman of her word.  She does what she says she will do, she shows up when she’s supposed too, I can trust her. I love having a partner because they help you share the work.  Martha handles all of the emails, phone calls and front end or our business. I handle all of the back end, the books, website, etc. When one of us is gone for a week, no one misses us more than the other.  Being partners allows us to share the load, neither one of us has to do it all by ourselves. I love having partners because they understand exactly how hard it can be some days, because they’re in the trenches with you.  When the heat is scorching, the kids are whining and your feet are hurting, they know exactly what that feels like. Partners can sympathize with you like no one else can. I love having a partner because together we make better decisions and hold each other accountable.  Martha double checks my work for me. When I create fliers, she helps me design them. When we run a promotion, she helps me decide what’s best. We make all of our decisions together, and together we make better decisions. I love having a partner.

We all have partners in life, whether business or personal.  Our spouses are our partners. We find partners at work to keep each other going, partners at the gym to help us perform at our best, partners in life that help us get through the tough days.  We need partners to keep us going, and our greatest partner is God. He knows all, sees all, loves all. When we partner with Him, the sky’s the limit.

I’m thankful for partners today.  What are you thankful for?

“Rejoice always, pray continually.”  1 Thessalonians 5:16

My white wicker desk has a glass overlay on top of it, under the overlay are pictures, scriptures and quotes that are near and dear to my heart.  This morning, as I was getting ready to write today’s devotional, a bright, pink block caught my eye. At the top of it I have handwritten, “HOW TO PRAY FOR PEOPLE.”  I’ve spent the month thanking God for the people He has given me, I thought it would be worth the time to share how I pray for them.

The scripture I model my prayers after is Philippians 1:9-11 NIV:

“And this is my prayer: that your love may abound more and more in knowledge and depth of insight, so that you may be able to discern what is best and may be pure and blameless for the day of Christ, filled with the fruit of righteousness that comes through Jesus Christ—to the glory and praise of God.”

From these verses are four principles we can use to pray for people.  First we can pray they grow in love, “this is my prayer, that your love may abound more and more in knowledge and depth of insight.”  Second, we can pray they make wise choices, “so that you may be able to discern what is best.” Then we pray that they will live with integrity, “and may be pure and blameless for the day of Christ.”  Lastly, we can pray they will become like Jesus, “filled with the fruit of righteousness that comes through Jesus Christ-to the glory and praise of God.” That is my model for praying for people, I have no idea where I found it, or who penned it first.  This block has been on my desk for many years, I try to use it often.

I did learn one lesson from my dear Cody, sometimes it’s best to pray it, than say it.  I dropped Cody off at school one morning, as he was getting out of the car, I randomly said, “Make good choices today.”  Well, he didn’t, nothing major, but he got in a little trouble at school that day. He told me in the afternoon, I was never to tell him to make good choices again.  I never did, but I always prayed that he would. In a recent Andy Stanley message in a series title, “How Not to be Your Own Worst Enemy,” he made the point that other people can see areas in our lives where we’re on the wrong path, but we can’t see it.  Not only can’t we see it, but we don’t want to hear what they have to say. When faced with situations like this, praying silently for the person, using the above model is the best option. We tend to discount the power of prayer because the results of it aren’t always easily seen.  God doesn’t work on our timetable, but that doesn’t mean He isn’t working. When we pray for people, we need to give Him time to work. Often times, we’ll find, we’re the one He changes, not them.

Today I’m thankful for prayer.  What are you thankful for?

“Therefore, as God’s chosen ones, holy and dearly loved, put on compassion and kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience, bearing with one another and forgiving one another if anyone has a grievance against another.  Just as the Lord has forgiven, so you are also to forgive.” Collossians 3:12-13 CSB

Today is my mother-in-law’s birthday, as well as my little brother Ron’s birthday.  I did not know my mother-in-law well, she passed away three years after we were married, she had alzheimer’s.  The little time I had to know her before she lost all memory was very short. But I do know, she raised an amazing son and I will always be grateful.  Not only is it her birthday, but it’s also her wedding anniversary. She made it easy on my father-in-law, he only had one date to remember for two big events.  If she hadn’t been born and they hadn’t been married, I wouldn’t be where I am today. And there is my little brother Ron who stands 6ft, 7in tall and weighs more than most.  I can’t get my arms around him when I hug him, he is a mountain of a man, which is why I love calling him “Little Brother!” He has been my rock in times of despair, my friend in times of need, my champion in times of battle.  They are part of my family, and family are our stomping grounds for practicing today’s verse.

Family is where we learn how to put on compassion and kindness, humility, gentleness and patience.  Family is where we learn to forgive. When Ron’s mom, Page was in end stage alzheimer’s, I knelt beside her bed and held her hand.  I prayed over her, hugged her and loved her to the best of my ability. When my little brother ratted me out to my mom for stealing Dad’s cigarette butts and trying to smoke them, I learned to forgive.  When he continued to rat me out over the course of a lifetime, I continued to forgive. And when our mother was declining and we had to take care of her together, my brother and I grew up together in a whole new way.  Family is our stomping grounds for learning to love fully and completely.

I know not all families are the same.  I know there is heartache in some families I can’t begin to understand.  But there is one family that you are accepted into that is perfect, the family of God.  In His family we can find the love we so desperately seek. In His family we find forgiveness, we find compassion and kindness, humility and gentleness, we find patience.  We find Him.

Today I’m thankful for family.  What are you thankful for?