Honest Reflections

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“Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another.” (1 John 4:11 NIV)

Love others because God first loved you.

Influencers in today’s world are people who have a large following.  But in reality, you don’t need a large following to influence.  Jesus died for the one; He left the 99 to find the 100th:

“And if he finds it, truly I tell you, he is happier about that one sheep than about the ninety-nine that did not wander off.  In the same way your Father in heaven is not willing that any of these little ones should perish.” (Matthew 18:13-14 NIV)

Love like Jesus

When we love like Jesus, people get to know Him.  Feeding the hungry, helping the homeless both reflect Jesus’s love.   In today’s world, we have to learn to love through the internet and face to face.   People relate through screens more than they do physically.  One dimensional communication creates miscommunication.  What we mean and what people interpret are two different things.   Don’t engage in the argument; instead, spread encouragement.  

Since the pandemic started, I’ve made a conscious effort to post uplifting and encouraging posts on my social media feed.  My husband and I share a page; I asked his permission to post what I want when I want.  Selfies are not my thing, but I post them; they let people see how I’m doing.  One of my recent posts was titled: “Battling the blues sans Beth.”   With an intent to encourage, I took a selfie during my walk. Struggling with a bout of depression that morning, I moved through it by recognizing, accepting, investigating, and nurturing (RAIN) my emotions.  We can’t change the world’s heaviness, but we can embrace God’s promises:

“Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.” (Matthew 11:29-30 NIV)

People learn of Jesus when we love like Him. Responding to people’s comments on social media is a way to love like Jesus virtually.  Not rising to the occasion when someone instigates an argument, but instead, finding a way to uplift and encourage can change the world.  Remember, behind the screen is a person. Whoever you’re communicating with, they have emotions.  “The Social Dilemma,” a recent Netflix movie, stated alarming statistics. Suicide rates have skyrocketed in preteens and teens since the rise of social media.  What we post and how we respond to people matters in the virtual world.

Recognize the humanity behind the post.  Instead of deepening the problem, use love to conquer hate.  Tap into the love God gave you, then share it with those around you, any way you can.

Question of the Day:

How can you love virtually today?

Further Reading:Daniel 11:36-12:13 NIV, 1 John 4 NIV, Psalm 123 NIV, Proverbs 29:2-4 NIV

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“Dear children, let us not love with words or speech but with actions and in truth.” (1 John 3:18 NIV)

God reveals truth. 

Each of us live in a different reality.  We agree on certain things, but not all things. Age, for instance is a factual truth.  Facts on COVID are subjective.  One reports says masks are useless, another says they aren’t.  One news article says hospitals are laying off workers because their empty, another says they have no beds because of COVID.   Who are we to believe?  What are we to believe? 

My most recent achievement is a Masters in Strategic Communication.  God willing, in just a couple of weeks I will finish my last class.  One truth I’ve learned, news outlets no longer tell the truth.  Instead, whoever owns the news outlet controls the message.  For instance, Rupert Murdoch owns News Corp, which owns hundreds of local, national and international news outlets.  He is executive chairman of Fox News, he controls the message.  Local newscasters all use the same script, as evidenced by this video.  Six corporations control the majority of the message media coutlets produce in the United States and the world.  

To find truth, start with God.

Truth is found through God.  As we seek Him, He reveals truth to us.  No matter who you are, your perspective is narrow.  No one has God’s view.  If we are to see what He sees, we must seek and ask for it.  

“Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.”  (John 8:32 NIV)

First, understand what you read on the internet or see in the news isn’t necessarily true.  However, when you ask God to help you decipher the truth, He will.

“Ears to hear and eyes to see–both are gifts from the Lord.” (Proverbs 20:12 NIV)  

When God reveals His truth to you, He gives you the ears to hear and eyes to see it.  Whatever the topic, He has the answer.  Within your Spirit, you will know.  For each of us, how we “know” is different, we just do.

The truths each of us have to face are diverse.  Lies I believe, others don’t.  All of us believe falsities to some extent.  Only God can reveal what they are.  God brings all things into the light.

“But everything exposed by the light becomes visible–and everything that is illuminated becomes a light.” (Ephesians 5:13 NIV)  

If you’re struggling with who to believe and what to do, seek God.  Whatever the issue, ask Him to reveal His truth to you.  Draw close to God, He’ll draw close to you.  When you do, you will see His truth in all things.  His knowing you will know.

Love with actions that speak God’s truth.

Question of the Day:

What truth do you want God to reveal to you?

Further Reading: Daniel 11:2-35 NIV, 1 John 3:7-24 NIV, Psalm 122:1-9 NIV, Proverbs 29:1 NIV

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“I lift up my eyes to the mountains—where does my help come from?  My help comes from the Lord, the Maker of heaven and earth.” (Psalm 121:1-2 NIV)

God always helps.

The part no one tells you, He doesn’t help the way you think He will.  In fifty-one years on this earth, not once has God done what I told Him to do.  He has and is answering every prayer I have ever prayed, but His ways aren’t mine.  One of the hardest things to accept as a Christ-follower, you’re not in control.  Prayer is not your opportunity to command God to bid your will.  No, prayer is a conversation with God where you release your heart to Him.  As you unburden the emotions of your soul to Him, you’re making room for God to fill it.

My favorite part of the week is my Zoom prayer meeting.  A group of us from my church gather faithfully to learn more about talking to God.  One of our members is struggling with anger about life, like many of us do.  Her struggle with her feelings prevented her from sleeping.  Wanting sleep, she started to make room for God in her overwhelming emotions.  She told him she wasn’t ready to release all of her anger yet, but let her release enough so she could sleep.  And then she slept.  Speaking frankly with God is what He wants.

Ask God for help

When our hearts are full of negative emotions, God has no room to move.  We have to release the negativity before we can embrace the positive.  Clinging to the hurt makes us feel like we have control when we don’t.  When we empty our spirit, our emotion, God fills us with His.  Grace and mercy begin to flow into us, and through us, the more we let go of what we cannot control.  Healing occurs when we start the conversation.  The more we release, the more we heal.

In that same prayer meeting, my pastor gave a great analogy of how we’re to look at God.  If you have ever had a dog, you’ll understand immediately.  Man’s best friend, if they have owners who value them, have a look of unconditional love in their eyes that is hard to compare.  They trust willingly and freely, no matter what the situation.   Because I’m a dog owner, I immediately thought of the trusting look my dog gives me.  My next thought was, I don’t look at God the same way.  

Pain causes mistrust of God.  Our circumstances make us doubt His love for us.  God never promised an easy life, He promises an eternal one. 

Whatever you’re struggling with today, look up.  Ask God for help releasing the negative.  Let Him fill you with His love and mercy.

Question of the Day:

Where is your help coming from today?

Further Reading: Daniel 9-11:1NIV, 1 John 2:18-3:6 NIV, Psalm 121 NIV, Proverbs 28:27-28 NIV

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“I call on the Lord in my distress, and he answers me.” (Psalm 120:1 NIV)

Call God’s hotline.

If you’ve ever watched Batman, you’ve seen the Bat phone.  If not, check out this brief retrospective.  A bright red phone in the Commissioner’s office connects to Batman, wherever he is, whatever he is doing.  When a need arises, he’s always ready to answer the call.  If Batman isn’t near his phone, someone is that lets him know it’s ringing.  Help comes with one call.

Our “bat phone” to God isn’t physical, but it is just as real.  Everytime trouble occurs, God is waiting expectantly for the call.  If we’re struggling to pick up the phone, God gives us people who help us lift it.  They point us in His direction, knowing He is the only one with the answers for a broken heart, desperate situation or general crisis.  Dropping to our knees, humbling ourselves before God, brings divine help into our circumstances.

God’s line is always open.

No matter what time of day you call, God answers.  We may not see His response immediately, but He started responding before you ever started dialing.   He’s not surprised by your request, He’s been waiting for you to come to Him.

“With great connectivity comes great responsibility.”  Batman Retrospective Video

God is responsible for the answers.  We’re responsible for connecting.  If we don’t make the connection with God by calling on Him, we’ll never find the answers.  When we call on God, He reveals His truth to us.

Currently, a friend and I are studying Revelation chapter by chapter.  When we first began, my friend summed up the book with the words, “It brings the Old Testament and the New Testament together.”  She’s right, the deeper we study, the more we see this truth.  Why?  Because that is what the book is about, revealing the truth of Jesus.  His truth is not our truth.  What He sees, we cannot see.  Only when we connect to Him, do we begin to have glimpses of His view.

Recently, my heart took a ding over a family situation.  My first response was not calling God.  No, first I called a friend, who didn’t answer.  Then I texted another friend, also no response.  Their lack of response was what made me fall to my knees.  When I called God, He answered.  I’m not saying He immediately fixed the hurt, He didn’t.  But what reaching out to Him allowed me to do was unload the hurt and disappointment from my soul into His waiting hands.  If we don’t release our pain, we’ll eventually explode.  God can handle our misery, He has an answer.  But if we don’t call Him, we’ll never get the response.

Call God when you’re in distress.  He always answers.

Question of the Day:

Do you call God first when a problem arises?

Further Reading: Daniel 8:1-27 NIV, 1 John 2:1-17 NIV, Psalm 120:1-7 NIV, Proverbs 28:25-26 NIV

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“Whoever rebukes a person will in the end gain favor rather than one who has a flattering tongue.” (Proverbs 28:23 NIV)

Rebuke is better than flattery.

If you have someone in your life who speaks loving truth to you, cherish them.  People who use flattery to gain friends are soon exposed.  Whoever tells you about the lettuce stuck in your teeth, they are people who love you.  Having greenery in the pearly whites is something we can’t see ourselves; we need someone to see it for us.  The problem is, a lot of people know the spinach is there but don’t tell you.  Instead, they let you walk around looking silly.  Pointing out a flaw to someone is never easy but necessary for growth.

My husband and I are working our way through a year-long couples devotion.  Often the questions lead to discussions on things that annoy each of us.  The author is trying to help us have difficult conversations with each other.  My husband’s insights into my life have opened my eyes to things alone I would never see.  Lovingly, he points out the lettuce in my life.

Help others see the lettuce.

Rebuking is disapproval of someone’s actions.  However, the person committing the act may not know they are heading down the wrong path.  When we see someone moving in a misguided direction, we should try to stop them. If we don’t tell them about the lettuce, they’ll never see it in their teeth. In other words, we’re holding a mirror up, reflecting to them what we see.

One of my most life-changing rebukes came from my husband.  We were answering a question about two life-defining moments from our childhood.  As usual, I talked about my father’s death when I was 16 and his disability growing up.  My husband’s moments were both sports-related.  As our conversation deepened, my husband pointed out; I wore my suffering like a badge.  In other words, I was proud of my misery.  Yes, we argued our way through this discussion for most of the night.  But as the dawn broke, I pulled the lettuce from my teeth.

My husband’s rebuke helped me gain a new perspective.  His insight opened my eyes to a new level of awareness I had not seen.  I began to understand the impact of my father’s death in a new light.  I was comparing my pain to others, but instead, I needed to just sympathize with their pain.  Suffering isn’t a competition.  No one wins because they’ve suffered “more” than someone else.  Now, when I start to “show my badge,” my husband’s words remind me, it’s not a contest.

Question of the Day:

Do you have people in your life who will help you see the lettuce?

Further Reading:Daniel 7:1-28 NIV, 1 John 1:1-10 NIV, Psalm 119:153-176 NIV, Proverbs 28:23-24 NIV

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“So the king gave the order, and they brought Daniel and threw him into the lions’ den. The king said to Daniel, “May your God, whom you serve continually, rescue you!” (Daniel 6:16 NIV)

God is our protector.

In the case of Daniel and his Lion’s den, God sent an angel to close the mouths of the beasts (Daniel 6:22 NIV).  God’s protection comes in various forms today.  Cars keep us safe in accidents.  Our homes offer shelter from the storms.  People protect us.  Unexplained mishaps stop us from more significant harm.  We all live in the lion’s den:

“Be alert, be on watch! Your enemy, the Devil, roams around like a roaring lion, looking for someone to devour.” (1 Peter 5:8 GNT)

Satan looks to devour; God wants us to trust.  When the soldiers threw Daniel into the lion’s den, he didn’t know how God would save him.  What Daniel did was trust God, no matter what his situation.  Daniel’s punishment came because he wouldn’t worship the king.  When Daniel first found out about the new law, his response was prayer:

“Three times a day he got down on his knees and prayed, giving thanks to his God, just as he had done before.” (Daniel 6:10b NIV)

Battle lions with prayer.

Notice, Daniel prayed and then got thrown into the lion’s den.  Following Christ doesn’t mean we’ll never run into hardship.  Jesus tells us plainly, in this world we will have trouble, but take heart, He’s overcome the world (John 16:33 NIV).  When we pray, we’re lifting our concerns to God.  His answers are up to Him, not us.  Accepting His Sovereignty in our lives means acknowledging He is in control.   God does know what He is doing if even we don’t.

Daniel’s obedience, his acceptance for his lot, glorified God before the king.  As a result, the king changed the decree:

“I issue a decree that in every part of my kingdom people must fear and reverence the God of Daniel.” (Daniel 6:26 NIV)

Lights don’t shine in the light, only in the dark.  The tiniest spark pierces the darkness.  Even faith the size of a mustard seed moves mountains (Matthew 17:20 NIV).  We’re in the den, but God in us is bigger than any lion:

“You, are from God and have overcome them, because the one who is in you is greater than the one who is in the world.” (1 John 4:4 NIV)

We are living in the den of the lion.  Our world is in chaos with the pandemic.  But the God of Daniel is our God.   When we lean into Him, He protects us from the lions.

Question of the Day:

What lion do you need God’s protection from today?

Further Reading: Daniel 6:1-28 NIV, 2 Peter 3:1-18 NIV, Psalm 119:129-152 NIV,  Proverbs 28:21-22 NIV

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“Suddenly the fingers of a human hand appeared and wrote on the plaster of the wall, near the lampstand in the royal palace. The king watched the hand as it wrote. His face turned pale and he was so frightened that his legs became weak and his knees were knocking.” (Daniel 5:5-6 NIV)

Whoever God appoints reads the writing on the wall.

Our narrative in today’s scripture took place while King Belshazzar has dinner with a thousand of his closest friends.  During the festival, a hand appears and writes a message for all to see.  The problem is, no one knows what it says.  Belshazzar tries to find someone to interpret the message; no one can.  Finally, his wife finds out about the problem.  The queen tells him to call Daniel because he has the “spirit of the holy gods in him” (Daniel 5:11 NIV).  Daniel comes and reads the inscription; “MENE, MENE, TEKEL, PARSIN”. (Daniel 5:25 NIV).  Interpreted the words mean the king’s rule has ended, judgement is against him, the kingdom divided and given away (Daniel 5:26-28 NIV).  Hence the origin for the common phrase, “writing on the wall.”

Important to note, not everyone can read the writing on the wall.  Guests in attendance were able to see the writing, but they couldn’t understand what it meant.  Only one looking through God’s eyes could interpret the words.  What was true thousands of years ago is true today.  Not everyone can see the writing on the wall.  They don’t understand the turmoil in the world because they are looking through human eyes.  When we join our spirit with God’s, as Daniel did, we begin to understand what no one else can.

Gain spiritual vision.

Daniel had spiritual vision.  He honored God more than anyone else, even the king.  His life devoted to following God.  Daniel’s reward was a new lens to see the world.  Instead of seeing what everyone else at the banquet saw, He saw what God saw.  We can’t see what God sees if we aren’t in a daily relationship with Him.

My husband and I celebrated 8 years of marriage in August.  When I married my husband, I thought I knew him.  However, 2,999 days later, I know him much better.  Each day our relationship deepens as we invest in each other.  Our relationship with God grows with us as we include him in our days. We learn new things about God, ourselves, people, everyday.  Pursuing relationships takes work, but the rewards are worth every bit of effort.  The more effort, the deeper the relationship, which is the reward.

Pray this simple prayer: “God help me see what You see.”  Let Him open your eyes to the writing on the wall.

Question of the Day:

Who or what do you need to see through God’s eyes?

Further Reading: Daniel 5 NIV, 2 Peter 2:1-22 NIV, Psalm 119:113-128 NIV, Proverbs 28:19-20 NIV

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“Oh, how I love your law! I meditate on it all day long.” (Psalm 119:97 NIV)

Meditate on God’s law.

When we use God’s word as an instructional manual for our life, we’ll fall in love with it.  The reason we find His peace is because we meditate on His law.  God’s promises will encourage you to face any mountain, weather any storm.   Each day as you face new challenges, God’s word has an answer for you.  If you don’t meditate on His Word, you won’t find His answers.

For instance, when I worked for Nautica, lay-offs occurred every six months.  Worry about losing my job was a constant mental battle trying to steal my joy.  Because I worked remotely, I was not privy to office gossip, which was a blessing.  Gossip only fuels the fire of fear.  I won the mental battle by meditating on this scripture:

“And my God will meet all your needs according to the riches of His glory in Christ Jesus.” (Phil. 4:19 NIV)

Every time worry and anxiety tried to rear their ugly heads, I changed my thinking.  By meditating on this scripture, I gained victory.  Time and time again, I used God’s promise to squelch satan’s attacks.

Flip the script.

Meditating on scripture helps you flip the script on your thoughts.  Instead of worrying about your problems, you focus on God’s answer.   Below are some of God’s answers to our circumstances.  

My pastor, in a recent message, talked about praying for something versus praying through something.  Meditating on scripture during the day is praying through something.  Instead of asking for God to do something, you’re meditating on what He will do in His time.  Our dependence on God deepens as we wait for His answers.  If we received everything at a moment’s notice, we wouldn’t appreciate what we have.  Nor would we grow into who God is calling us to be.

Find one of God’s promises to meditate on today. Turn your meditation into prayer.  Then, look expectantly for His response.

Question of the Day:

What promise of God’s do you need today?

Further Reading:Daniel 4:1-37 NIV, 2 Peter 1:1-21 NIV, Psalm 119:97-112 NIV, Proverbs 28:17-18 NIV

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“Dear friends, do not be surprised at the fiery ordeal that has come on you to test you, as though something strange were happening to you. But rejoice inasmuch as you participate in the sufferings of Christ, so that you may be overjoyed when his glory is revealed.” (1 Peter 4:12-13 NIV)

Your sufferings are for Jesus.

Suffering is a part of everyone’s life, whether they believe in Jesus or not. Without Jesus, suffering is hopeless. But as a Christ-follower, our hope is in Jesus.  We know the trials we suffer today, God will use for His glory.

“And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love Him, who have been called according to His purpose.” (Romans 8:28 NIV)

Suffering for Jesus means having hope in the future.  The last thing Satan wants is Jesus love spread into the world.  When he has a chance to stop love, he’ll take it.  Our suffering is compounded when we take our eyes off of Jesus and fall for the devil’s schemes.  The closer we follow Jesus, the less we’ll fall for the devil’s ploys.

Anchor yourself in Jesus truth.

Negative emotions accompany suffering.  As I talk about often, feelings lie.  The Devil loves to gain a foothold in our lives through our anxieties, fear and depression.  But Jesus refutes his efforts with His truth:

“Put on the full armor of God, so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes. Stand firm then, with the belt of truth buckled around your waist, with the breastplate of righteousness in place, and with your feet fitted with the readiness that comes from the gospel of peace. In addition to all this, take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one. Take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God.” (Ephesians 6:11, 14-17 NIV)

Write these verses on an index card; make them your screen saver on your phone.  Read these words often, memorize them.  In this passage you can find strength for any battle you’re facing.   Truth grounds us, faith shields us, God protects us.

Our nation is suffering right now.  Political upheavel and unrest is at a maximum.  Finding the truth in today’s world is harder than every.  News outlets slant to whatever side they favor.  If the story doesn’t fit the narrative, it’s not covered.  Therefore, we as people, don’t know what is true and what isn’t.  But that’s ok, because God does.  God knows who is lying, who isn’t.  In His time, He will reveal the truth.  In Him we trust, not man.

Suffering is part of life.  In our trials, Jesus is with us.  In Him, we rejoice.

Question of the Day:

How has suffering caused you to rejoice?

Further Reading: Daniel 2:24-3:30 NIV, 1 Peter 4:7-5:14 NIV, Psalm 119:81-96 NIV, 

Proverbs 28:15-16 NIV

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“Blessed is the one who always trembles before God, but whoever hardens their heart falls into trouble.” (Proverbs 28:14 NIV)

Trembling before God keeps you out of trouble.

“Fear of God” was a term my siblings and I often heard growing up.  Usually, the phrase had something to do with punishment for some childish mishap.  My parents were devout Christ-followers, their actions speaking louder than their words.   Only in the last few years have I realized the depth of their convictions.   Because of them, I tremble before God, more concerned about His consequences than man’s.

We tremble before God by recognizing His Sovereignty.  When we understand He is truly in control, we can trust fall into His arms, no matter what the situation.  No one knows what the future holds, no matter what they say.  What we do know is God’s commands found for us in His word—respecting God in the utmost means obeying Him, no matter what.

Start with truth.

Facing the truth of our lives causes trembling.  Admitting our sinful nature, laying it before God’s feet, is not easy.  We deceive ourselves more than we deceive anyone else. Confessing to God can feel like a kid caught with their hand in the cookie jar.  Fear of His punishment causes us to tremble.  But God’s response is never what we think:

“For by grace you have been saved through faith; and that not of yourselves, it is the gift of God.” (Ephesians 2:8 NIV)

God meets our sin with His grace.  As we lay our misdeeds at His feet, He folds us in His arms with love.  Does that mean you won’t suffer consequences?  No, actions still have effects.  If you spend too much money, you have to pay it back.  Lying is always exposed.  Thieves eventually get caught. Hardened hearts ignore what God says; trouble always follows—trembling before God means avoiding negative consequences.

God always sheds His truth.  What is unseen becomes seen.  He knows all.

Hardened hearts cause disunity.  God reminded me of that when I was Groups Coordinator at a local church, dealing with an issue in one group.  As I searched for the truth, I found the lie.  Another staff member counseled the leader to lie to solve the problem.  But God never commanded us to lie, in all things we are, to tell the truth:

“God is spirit, and those who worship Him must worship in spirit and truth.” (John 4:24 NIV)

Trembling before God means telling the truth.  The lying in this situation created unnecessary drama. As a result of the lie, the group split.  People were hurt, friendships ended. 

Fear God’s consequences more than man’s.  When we tremble before God,  He leads us to peace with man.

Question of the Day:

Are you more concerned about God’s ways or man’s ways?

Further Reading:Daniel 1:1-2:23 NIV, 1 Peter 3:8-4:6 NIV, Psalm 119:65-80 NIV, Proverbs 28:14 NIV