Two-minute read.
For many years of my life, I didn’t listen first. Instead, I arrogantly assumed I knew someone else’s thoughts and, therefore, didn’t need to hear their words, making my perspective a priority over theirs. One of my biggest regrets, I try to spend more time listening and less time pushing my agenda.
I realize I don’t know what others think, and when they tell me, I’m always surprised. Giving others the chance to talk and express themselves, creating an environment where they feel safe to share their thoughts and feelings, will help the relationship flourish. Listening first and gaining all the facts allows us to gain wisdom and knowledge to love people better.
As a volunteer in children’s ministry, I find that kids help illustrate this point. When I see a pouty face and ask them why they feel sad, I’m always surprised by the answers. Sometimes a game goes awry, or an argument with a friend brings them down. I will never forget the night I asked one little girl why she wore a frown:
“My mom has breast cancer. She’s gotta get treatments and is going to be really sick.”
I didn’t even know how to respond; the answer surprised me. Knowing her mom, my heart instantly sank, and the prayers quickly started heavenward. If I hadn’t listened first, I would have made a wrong assumption and very possibly worsened the situation.
Before you speak, listen. Ask questions that help bring clarity to the situation, ensuring you understand before making yourself understood. Wise people talk less and listen more. Like Jesus, put others first by giving them time to speak and listening to what they have to say.
Journal Question:
When have you ever pushed your agenda on someone else without listening to them first?
How can you become a better listener today?
How can listening before speaking help you love people better?
Prayer:
Lord, thank You for giving us ways to create healthy relationships by putting others first. When we have conversations with people, help us listen before speaking and ensure we understand them before trying to make them see our point of view.
IJNIP. Amen
