Two-minute read.
“Any time you hear someone say, “Must be nice…” It’s a sign of envy.”
Years ago, listening to a message on envy, the pastor made that statement. Ever since then, when I hear someone say those words, I recognize envy in their voice. And if I even think “must be nice,” it tips me off to my own issues. Envy and jealousy differ:
Envy focuses on a desire for what you lack, while jealousy focuses on a fear of losing what you have.[1]
Envy occurs when one person desires what another person has. Jealousy has a triangular relationship between you and two other parties. For example, I envy people with fast metabolisms who can eat whatever they want. But I can become jealous of my garden, not wanting to share its fruits with anyone.
Solomon warns us against envying evil people because they become obsessed with violence. Malicious intent never wins, and as wicked people get thwarted, they become increasingly violent. Research history, and you will find countless examples of people doing unspeakable things to get what they want.
Using “must be nice” to signal envy will help you beat the emotion. Remembering that we have everything we need in Jesus will lead to victory over the desire for someone else’s blessing. For me, celebrating the other person’s good fortune helps me let go of envy and embrace the joy of their blessing.
Keep the Son in your eyes and surround yourself with people who will help you stay focused on the Savior. In Christ, we want for nothing and have everything to gain.
Journal Question:
“When have you said, ‘must be nice”?
How would you describe the difference between envy and jealousy?
In what ways can you defeat envy?
Prayer:
Lord, thank You for giving us all we need in Jesus. Please help us identify envy in our lives and find victory over it with You. Let us honor and serve You well in all we do.
IJNIP. Amen
[1] https://share.google/SnKBVvDGFIzdfG3uY
