{"id":3954,"date":"2021-06-14T05:36:11","date_gmt":"2021-06-14T10:36:11","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/shop.honestreflections.net\/?p=3954"},"modified":"2021-06-14T05:36:12","modified_gmt":"2021-06-14T10:36:12","slug":"how-speaking-without-love-will-make-you-a-clashing-cymbal","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.honestreflections.net\/index.php\/2021\/06\/14\/how-speaking-without-love-will-make-you-a-clashing-cymbal\/","title":{"rendered":"How Speaking Without Love Will Make You a Clashing Cymbal"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

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Daily Reading: <\/strong>1 Kings 14-15 GW<\/a>; <\/strong>1 Corinthians 13 GW<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Words spoken in love aren\u2019t offensive.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we use harsh words, it\u2019s like clashing cymbals to the hearer.   Speaking with love means thinking about the other person first.  Instead of saying whatever is on your mind, you stop and think about how it will sound to the other person. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWhen someone repeatedly uses words to demean, frighten, or control someone, it\u2019s considered verbal abuse.\u201d  <\/em>Ann Pietrangelo, <\/em>Healthline<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Words do matter.  What you say affects people, whether you believe it does or not.  One of the first statistics I learned in my coaching career involved words.  When I speak to a child, they retain 80% of what I say.  However, I only remember 20% of the words I use.  Learning this information made me more aware of the words I use.  Instead of focusing on the negative, I highlight the positive.  If my words aren\u2019t encouraging and uplifting, I don\u2019t say them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Check your language.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Before a word leaves your lips, ask yourself a question.  \u201cIs what I\u2019m about to say uplifting and encouraging?\u201d  If the answer is no, don\u2019t say the words.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cDon\u2019t use foul or abusive language. Let everything you say be good and helpful so that your words will be an encouragement to those who hear them.\u201d (<\/em>Ephesians 4:29 NLT<\/em><\/a>)<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

For Lent this year, I gave up swearing.  For every slip, I paid $1 to the swear jar.  At the end of the 40 days, I had accumulated $161, which I donated.  As much as I watch my language, I still have work to do.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We all do.  Only Jesus mastered the language of love.  Each day, we have an opportunity to try again. To the best of your ability, speak all things in love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Lord, thank You for giving us guidelines of how we are to speak.  Forgive us for using harsh words that demean and criticize others.  Help us today to monitor our comments.  If what we\u2019re going to say isn\u2019t uplifting and encouraging, don\u2019t let us say it.  Let the Holy Spirit prompt us from within when we\u2019re about to say something verbally abusive.  Close our mouths when our words are like clashing cymbals to the hearer.  Let us today speak all things in love.  IJNIP. Amen<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Question for reflection<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Is your language uplifting and encouraging?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

2 minute read. Daily Reading: 1 Kings 14-15 GW; 1 Corinthians 13 GW Words spoken in love aren\u2019t offensive. When we use harsh words, it\u2019s like clashing cymbals to the hearer.   Speaking with love means thinking about the other person first.  Instead of saying whatever is on your mind, you stop and think about… Continue reading How Speaking Without Love Will Make You a Clashing Cymbal<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-3954","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized","without-featured-image"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.honestreflections.net\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3954","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.honestreflections.net\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.honestreflections.net\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.honestreflections.net\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.honestreflections.net\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3954"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/www.honestreflections.net\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3954\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":4059,"href":"https:\/\/www.honestreflections.net\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3954\/revisions\/4059"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.honestreflections.net\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3954"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.honestreflections.net\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3954"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.honestreflections.net\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3954"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}