{"id":2421,"date":"2020-08-18T03:00:00","date_gmt":"2020-08-18T08:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/shop.honestreflections.net\/?p=2421"},"modified":"2020-08-08T08:52:44","modified_gmt":"2020-08-08T13:52:44","slug":"what-kind-of-nag-are-you","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.honestreflections.net\/index.php\/2020\/08\/18\/what-kind-of-nag-are-you\/","title":{"rendered":"WHAT KIND OF NAG ARE YOU?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

\u201cBetter to live in a desert than with a quarrelsome and nagging wife.\u201d (Proverbs 21:19 NIV)<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

A nag<\/a> is someone who annoys or irritates (a person) with persistent fault-finding or continuous urging.  We all nag others to some extent, whether we realize it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Mom\u2019s nag their children to brush their teeth, make their bed, clean their rooms.  Wives nag husbands to fix the leaky toilet, pick up their dirty clothes, take off their muddy shoes. Husbands nag their wives about cleaning the house, cooking meals and whatever else annoys them.   Friends nag friends to break up with the boyfriend, or make up with the boyfriend or not have a boyfriend.  Nagging is a no win situation for all concerned.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

No one wants to live with a nag.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

As a tennis coach, I nag a lot.  \u201cRacquet back.\u201d  \u201cGet those feet moving.\u201d \u201cFinish that stroke.\u2019  The phrases I use are the same.  Tennis requires the same simple actions over and over again. The more repeated the motion, the better the player.  They tire of hearing me say the same thing over and over. Eventually, I don\u2019t have to say it anymore, they begin to tell me.  I tire of saying it, they tire of hearing it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

No one enjoys nagging.  Nagging is a form of unmet expectations.  We set an expectation for someone.  They don\u2019t do it.  Until it’s done, we nag.  Or is there a better way?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Recently, I\u2019ve stopped nagging on the tennis court.  Instead, I\u2019ve learned new drills.  Not only do they learn to move their feet, but they have fun while doing it.  Without realizing it, they\u2019ve done what I wanted them to do all along.  The kids respond better to fun games, than repeated nagging.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThe Karate Kid\u201d<\/a> is a 1984 movie about martial arts.  Mr. Miyagi is the wise teacher to his young protege.  Before he allows his student to set foot on the mat, he has him do a series of chores. The tasks help develop the muscle memory the student needs to successfully compete in martial arts.  In other words, Miyagied: he learned the skills necessary without realizing he was learning.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Instead of nagging, Miyagi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Find another way.  Every student I have requires a different approach.  The first thing I have to do is learn how to communicate with them.  What motivates them?  What doesn\u2019t?  Some kids need verbal praise.  Some kids need to understand the mechanics of the stroke.  Some kids need visual cues.  Once I understand how to communicate with them in a way they will receive, they begin to learn.  Instead of nagging, I\u2019m teaching.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Learning opportunities happen everyday.  If we learn to capitalize on them, we\u2019ll nag less.  Reduced nagging equals more peace. Nag less, teach more.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Question of the Day:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Who do you need to find another way to communicate with today?<\/p>\n\n\n\n


Further Reading: <\/strong>Esther 1-3 NIV<\/a>, 1 Corinthians 11:17-34 NIV<\/a>, Psalm 35:17-28 NIV<\/a>, Proverbs 21:19-20 NIV<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

\u201cBetter to live in a desert than with a quarrelsome and nagging wife.\u201d (Proverbs 21:19 NIV) A nag is someone who annoys or irritates (a person) with persistent fault-finding or continuous urging.  We all nag others to some extent, whether we realize it or not. Mom\u2019s nag their children to brush their teeth, make their… Continue reading WHAT KIND OF NAG ARE YOU?<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-2421","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized","without-featured-image"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.honestreflections.net\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2421","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.honestreflections.net\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.honestreflections.net\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.honestreflections.net\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.honestreflections.net\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2421"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/www.honestreflections.net\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2421\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":2424,"href":"https:\/\/www.honestreflections.net\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2421\/revisions\/2424"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.honestreflections.net\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2421"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.honestreflections.net\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2421"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.honestreflections.net\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2421"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}