\u201dAll night long I flood my bed with weeping and drench my couch with tears.\u201d \u00a0Psalm 6:6<\/b>
\nYesterday is what I call a grieving day. \u00a0It\u2019s the second one I\u2019ve had this year. \u00a0Both have been grieving over the loss of my Cody boy. \u00a0Both have taken me completely off guard. \u00a0I find myself in a flood of tears which don\u2019t want to stop.
\nI love what a friend just texted me. \u00a0I had to write it down because I\u2019m pretty sure yesterday will not be my last grieving day. \u00a0However when the next one comes, I\u2019ll understand it more.
\nDevelopmental Grief in a nutshell is when grief can be made fresh again due to different developmental points in life such as birthdays and holidays. \u00a0In my case, yesterdays can easily be pointed to Halloween and Cody\u2019s birthday in a couple of days.
\nThe part she wanted to share with me is why we still hurt:
\n\u201cWhat do you believe occurs for the person who reaches the acceptance stage? \u00a0Does \u201cgetting over it\u201d mean they have moved past the grief so it doesn\u2019t debilitate them any longer? \u00a0In our \u201ccheck-it-off-the-list and move on\u201d society, we falsely assume that acceptance means the loss no longer impacts our life. \u00a0This simply isn\u2019t true. \u00a0Acceptance essentially means that a person comes to terms with the reality of their losses and chooses to live in spite of it. \u00a0The sorrow will still linger, but the intensity is lessened. \u00a0When a person chooses to process the grief, they still have questions, but they aren\u2019t emotionally paralyzed anymore. \u00a0The consequences of the loss are still unwelcome, but can be faced head on.\u201d<\/i>
\nIt\u2019s true. \u00a0On grieving days, I often think of verses like Psalm 6:6. \u00a0David grieved. \u00a0Even Jesus wept (John 11:35). We are allowed to grieve. \u00a0In our society though, grief is uncomfortable. \u00a0People want everyone to be ok.
\nOn days like yesterday, I remind myself, I don\u2019t live to make other people comfortable. \u00a0I live for an audience of One. \u00a0God knows my broken heart. \u00a0He knows I need to grieve. \u00a0He will always be there to comfort me.
\nI don\u2019t know what you have lost. \u00a0I know we have all lost something. \u00a0There is so much loss in our world. \u00a0Loss of loved ones. \u00a0Loss of dreams. \u00a0Loss of jobs. \u00a0Whatever it is, \u00a0understand and give yourself permission to grieve. \u00a0It is what will help you keep moving forward to all God has in store for you.
\nGive yourself permission to grieve. \u00a0Let God catch your tears:
\n\u201dYou keep track of all my sorrows. \u00a0You have collected all my tears in your bottle. \u00a0You have recorded each one in your book.\u201d \u00a0Psalm 56:8<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
\u201dAll night long I flood my bed with weeping and drench my couch with tears.\u201d \u00a0Psalm 6:6 Yesterday is what I call a grieving day. \u00a0It\u2019s the second one I\u2019ve had this year. \u00a0Both have been grieving over the loss of my Cody boy. \u00a0Both have taken me completely off guard. \u00a0I find myself in… Continue reading Developmental Grief<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-212","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized","without-featured-image"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.honestreflections.net\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/212","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.honestreflections.net\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.honestreflections.net\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.honestreflections.net\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.honestreflections.net\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=212"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.honestreflections.net\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/212\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1581,"href":"https:\/\/www.honestreflections.net\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/212\/revisions\/1581"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.honestreflections.net\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=212"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.honestreflections.net\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=212"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.honestreflections.net\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=212"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}